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12 Things Every Mother NEEDS To Be Doing in 2018

January 3, 2018
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New Year Resolutions for a Mother? I know that’s what you were thinking. And I know as per the research, most people drop their New Year Resolutions before January ends! These are NOT resolutions. These are necessities. These are action points for a system every mother needs to set for herself going forward. Pushing ourselves to the limit (as I have quickly learned) eventually leads to burnout but will remove the pleasure of motherhood and life in general, so one of my goals in 2018, is to try and incorporate this action list into my daily/weekly/monthly routines.

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1. Wake up before the kids, and fill your cup first

Most weekdays (I say most because my almost 3-month-old, wakes up several times through the night, so I have some rough nights), I wake up for our morning prayer which is now around 5:45 am. I stay up after that, and have a cup of tea, prepare breakfast, do some social media work and prepare my sons school snack. This way I have managed to at least have my cup of tea (which sets my day!) and then tackle the kids. For you, it may be breakfast over a cup of tea.

2. Nourish Yourself

If you haven’t already read it please read my last post, on nutrition. This is so important in our roles as mothers and if we don’t nourish ourselves, we can’t expect to nourish our family. My guest post writer Jalila Krichi, made some great suggestions including taking your B-Complex Vitamins & Magnesium. (This post contains affiliate links. Please see my disclosure at the end of the post.)

3. Go Out with your Children Once a Day

Children (most of them at least) always behave better when they have gotten some outdoor play. Taking your kids out, even if it’s for a walk to check your mail or around your apartment complex, will get you all some air, and you can come home feeling refreshed even if it was only fo 10 mins!

4. Exercise

Whatever way you prefer to workout, whether a walk, running, yoga or gym. Try to incorporate this into your day. If it means you have to get a babysitter, pay for baby care at the gym, or pump breastmilk for your husband or family to watch your children while you go work out, do it. Exercise will help you feel more energized and stronger and help with those dreaded back aches most of us mothers have.

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5. Create a Routine Board for your Kids

If you don’t already have one, create a  schedule or an accountability board for your children. This will help all of you with any struggles you may be having with certain parts of your day. And Then She Said has a great printable to design a board that has helped us immensely. It won’t solve all your problems, but it will instill a little accountability especially if you have older toddlers.

6. Spend 10 Undivided Minutes a Day with Each Child

I took a course with Positive Parenting Solutions a few years ago and the one big thing I took away other than the amazing free potty training masterclass, was to spend 10 mins a day with each child. This will fill their attention basket and fuel better behavior making mother’s life easier. I still struggle with this because I now have 3 kids, but what we try to divide the time between parents. So Baba does book reading before bed and mama does something with the kids during the day. Check out Amy’s FREE webinar here.

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7. Know that you are Perfect the Way You Are

If you are anything like me you are a perfectionist and maybe have slight OCD. You want the Kids to cooperate, House to be Clean, Laundry to be Done, No Tantrums, To-D0 List Completed and time Spent with husband. This is not possible every day. It may happen every few days yes, but if it doesn’t please don’t stress yourself out. Focus on what’s important, prioritize, and do what you can or what’s important. If the dishes or vacuuming isn’t done 2 days in a row don’t beat yourself up because that mom on Instagram posted a picture of her clean, clutter-free, living room.

8. Ask for help

We are the Queens of overburdening ourselves. If you need help ask for it. You’ll thank yourself later. Don’t forget to thank the person helping too 🙂

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9. Schedule in Date Night with your hubby

Marriage is equally if not more important when having children. After all, it started with you as a couple first right? Plan regular monthly date nights (if not more), outdoors doing your favorite things together to connect with each other without the kids. What does this have to with you as a mother? If you are not happy with your husband, it will reflect negatively on how you are a mother too.

10. Work on a project

That dream project you have been trying to work towards? DO IT! Don’t hold yourself back, don’t talk yourself out of it, don’t make excuses. Need help? Email me info@throughmamaseyes.com. I have 5 Free Consultation Session openings for 5 women who are ready to take that step!

11. Meal-Plan

This is an action step for me in 2018. Even if you don’t meal-prep, just having a plan for the weeks dinners, can majorly help with time spent cooking, your weekly shopping and also save money if you plan right. Check out this post on meal-planning and get your free printable.

12. Self-Care

A long bath, reading your favorite book, manicure/pedicure, girls day/night out, a hike, a coffee date with yourself, or even just retail therapy are things you can do to care for yourself. Make time for YOU. Whether it’s every Sunday morning or Saturday night, arrange a regular time with your husband and or family to watch the kids for a few hours a week while you go do you 🙂

 

I hope these tips have been beneficial for you mama and I pray 2018 is a more productive, successful year filled with happiness with your loved ones and littles. If you would like to try any of the above please do comment below and let us know how it’s going.

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13 Comments

  • Reply Chasity January 3, 2018 at 4:59 pm

    This is something that I am trying to do more of. I love being able to have my cup of coffee and working on my schoolwork, blog, and social media posts. I always try to make time for myself but sometimes, it is hard.

    • Reply afra January 4, 2018 at 7:56 am

      It is hard! So So hard. I say this at 7:30 am as I am sipping on ginger lemon tea to feel better from a dreaded flu I have when I would rather be in bed recovering. My kids have been sick themselves hence still being in bed.

  • Reply Sasha Ticali January 4, 2018 at 11:37 am

    These are all so very important and well wished for! I know there are a few things I needed reminders of! Can’t pour from an empty cup is how I remind myself to keep myself in mind!

  • Reply Anum Basit January 4, 2018 at 7:20 pm

    Though I don’t have kids right now, but still I found this post very informative and helpful.

  • Reply Tiffany Barry January 4, 2018 at 8:54 pm

    Waking up before the kids is something I’ve just recently started doing, and it’s definitely something I want to continue in 2018. Self-care is the hardest for me.

  • Reply Najmah January 5, 2018 at 5:16 am

    Hello! I don’t have children but my 12 year old niece live with me for almost a year now. As a busy student myself and an aunt/guardian to my niece, I really lost time to take good care of myself last year. A month ago, I started working out, eating healthy and making more time with her. I even invited her to my activities – such as working out, studying together, and such. Our relationship becomes better. We need to really take good care of ourselves first to be able to take good care of others <3

  • Reply Farhana January 7, 2018 at 7:28 pm

    Such great tips mashaAllah! My kids are older now so wish you good luck with yours. Btw, I saw a post on Trader Joes’ on your blog- we shop there too!

  • Reply Fozia S January 8, 2018 at 1:46 am

    Thanks for sharing. Exercise I totally agree with – not just mums but everyone should be doing that!

    Dates nights is something we have never done and married for almost 12 years and stronger then ever alhamdulillah. We prefer to do things with the kids. Now that they are at school we do sometimes go out for breakfast.

  • Reply Madhiya Q January 8, 2018 at 2:43 am

    I don’t have children but I can relate to most of these goals for 2018 and already had them on my checklist such as meal planning, not being too hard on myself for not being able to accomplish everything on my to do list and exercise! Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply K.T. Lynn January 8, 2018 at 2:40 pm

    These are such wonderful tips! I think mothers often neglect themselves and end up burning out. Hopefully by implementing some of your tips, they can avoid that!

  • Reply meemfay January 9, 2018 at 10:09 pm

    Not a mommy but all these tips sound wonderful. Mommies need to get their time off as well. Well planned 2018

  • Reply Dilraz Kunnummal January 10, 2018 at 10:14 pm

    I am really liking the idea of 10 undivided minutes with each child. that is absolutely doable and can probably make a world of difference!
    Self care and date night are so so important too.
    Thank you for this.
    Sometimes we easily forget!

  • Reply Yousra Naeem March 22, 2018 at 1:08 pm

    Lovely lovely read. You discussed so many important points that Mother’s neglect on daily basis. Thank you for sharing! Gonna share it with my friends ❤

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